Children's Behaviour Management
Behaviour Management Downloads
Parenting is one of the most important tasks we ever undertake - yet we do so with no guidebook, no safety net or warranty, and certainly no life-time guarantee!
It should be one of our most fulfilling roles - but it is the one for which we are least prepared or trained.
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As a parent, are you:
- having difficulty getting your child to cooperate?
- giving the same instructions over and over again?
- unsure how to deal with challenging behaviour?
- having homework, playtime or bedtime battles?
- feeling tired, stressed, or like you may be failing?
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Is your child:
- unable to accept responsibility for his or her behaviour?
- having behaviour problems at school or in childcare?
- anxious, or having self-esteem issues?
- challenging you and answering back?
- being aggressive, non-compliant or bullying others?
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 We understand how you feel! You've probably already tried 'time out', rewards and punishments, and reading books and articles on child rearing...You may have even resorted to yelling, anger, or physical punishment; becoming louder and angrier - all without much effect. You're not alone.
Challenging the way we handle behaviour!
As in most societies, our approach to managing children's behaviour is largely based on correction, control and gaining obedience through the implementation of consequences, positive and negative
- all in a concerted attempt to change or control behaviour.
 Let's look at a typical behaviour management scenario:
- Child hurts another child.
- Parent or teacher shows great disapproval and reacts to unacceptable behaviour.
- Child sits on the 'time-out' chair, misses out on play or writes out lines.
- Later, child is spoken to, made to apologise and allowed to return to play.
- Adult believes the problem has been 'taken care of'.
But what has actually occurred here for the child?
Nothing. Writing 'I will not hit John' 50 times is meaningless for most children. Sitting on a 'time-out' chair will not bring about genuine change, and missing out on play is just inconvenient. These reactions don't result in the child changing his or her behaviour patterns or acquiring new social skills. Writing out lines or sitting on a mat, a chair, a step or any other inanimate object does not help, nor will ever help, children solve social problems, make better choices, have stronger communication, show greater respect to others, be more kind, caring and cooperative or learn how to resolve conflicts! And if children are not learning new behaviours and the social skills they need, there will be no change to behaviour! Later, the same adult will become frustrated when the same child hurts another child. The same adult will see this next altercation as a direct challenge to his or her authority and will react again, but next time the reaction may be 'stronger'. And so this 'cycle' continues on and on for years, leading to stronger reactions from parents and resulting in more frustrated, disillusioned and oppositional children.
 "You get to your room, now!" "You just wait until your father gets home!" "If you do that one more time, I'm going to slap you!" There is also the added problem of children copying these behavioural cues from parents. If you react by getting angry or frustrated, by making threats, shouting, punishing or hitting; if you intimidate, bully, yell, deprive or give retribution to get what you want, it's almost a certainty that your child will copy you and behave in the same way! This type of learning is hard to undo as it is copied from the most significant people in a child's life-the parents. How can we expect children to differentiate between our behaviour as adults and how they should behave as children! "Well, my mum and dad hit me!"
Until we get away from this idea that managing behaviour is all about reacting to it, we will continue to struggle with children's behaviour. Children need to be made responsible for their actions. They need to understand why they should change their behaviour and then given the skills necessary to make these changes. Children need to learn exactly how to replace old behaviour patterns with new patterns of behaviour-and it's the parents who need to make sure this happens.
We can help you!
We will take the worry and stress out of parenting for you by giving you clear and effective answers you need to bring about lasting changes to your child's behaviour. We've done a lot of the hard work for you and we're ready to help you succeed in changing your child's behaviour through skilled, powerful parenting.
1. Our Behaviour Management Package for Parents
In the form of an easy-to-use CD-Rom, our Behaviour Management Package is yours to keep as your child travels through from early childhood to their teenage years. Our carefully designed, family-friendly Behaviour Management Pack includes a 110 page 'Powerful Parenting' Manual and 118 pages of beautifully-designed, colourful resources that all work together systematically to bring about lasting change in your child's behaviour. Our Powerful Parenting program will give you the 12 simple steps you need to challenge, inspire, teach and motivate your child to become more self-managed, and capable of socially acceptable behaviour.
2. Our Behaviour Management Consultancy
Sometimes parents need a little extra support and advice to help them as they implement their new 12-step behaviour program. We offer this support and guidance through our consultancy sessions. These meetings are an affordable and easy way to have a behaviour management consultant work with you as you bring about great, new changes to your home, and to the way you approach your child and their behaviour.
3. Our Speaking Presentations
Do you have behaviour problems at your childcare centre or educational facility? Could your centre or organisation benefit from some new, highly-effective behaviour management strategies? Our Speaking Presentation is a dynamic and informative session that will show your parents (and staff) not only how to control behaviour, but more importantly, prevent behaviour problems from occurring in the first place!
In 12 simple steps, we can show you how to:
 recognise and dispel many behaviour management myths- avoid the problems and pitfalls of managing children's behaviour
- understand why many approaches fail to have long-term results
- eliminate factors that adversely affect behaviour, and
- set up the home environment to succeed
- communicate for success
- plan to prevent behaviour problems
- respond with meaningful consequences
- teach your child the power of choice and skilled problem-solving
- avoid toxic forms of behaviour management
- embrace relationship-based parenting
- challenge negative self-talk and build self-worth
- reclaim your control and strive for change yourself.
We can help your child to:
- actively listen and follow instructions and routines
- observe rules, limits, and boundaries
- problem-solve with words, not actions
- be helpful, kind and caring, share with others, and take turns
- take responsibility for their behaviour
- learn about the power of choice
- respect themselves, others, and their property
- be more happy, calm and relaxed
- build self-esteem and self-confidence
- communicate confidently with kindness
- learn self-control and leadership skills
- think about behaviour and work consciously to change it
- be truthful and a better friend
- avoid defiant, angry and aggressive behaviours.
Take the first step!
The Dalai Lama once said, 'Happiness is not ready made; it comes from your own actions.'
We also have a saying:
Skilled and powerful parenting is not ready made; it is the result of a learned wisdom that develops over time through learning, guidance and practice...
This is where we can help. You don't have to struggle with challenging or anti-social behaviour alone. We are ready to give you the answers and guidance you need to get your child's behaviour back on-track, and restore the peace and harmony to the family home that you deserve. |
